Being Bi at Pride

It’s not always safe under that purple flag

Last month marked the 12th anniversary of the death of Brenda Howard, also known as “The Mother of Pride”. She was called this thanks to her role in coordinating the 1970 Christopher Street Liberation Rally, marking the year anniversary of the Stonewall riots. Yep, you got it – the first ever Pride march. Brenda was, incidentally, bisexual.

Bisexuals are confusedHowever, Brenda’s memory isn’t necessarily being honoured as it should be. Why? Because being bisexual at Pride can still be a strange experience – and not always a welcoming one. Of course many members of the LGBT community accept that Pride is for everyone, including straight allies, but there’s still a strong contingent who believe that it’s been infiltrated by people who just want a party and don’t understand or care about the underlying meaning of the event. A PDA with an opposite-sex partner can invite incredibly hostile stares.

Even marching under the bi flag often, sadly, provokes shouts of “breeders!” and “greedy!” and other such choice words. There’s still a sense that we’re “tourists” in what is considered by many a “gay” event. That most of us bi gals have just come for a dance and a drink and the chance to tease some gay women before we go home with our boyfriends.

stop biphobiaYou may say we should leave our “straight” side at home and resist that kiss with our male-spectrum partner. You may say we should forget the bi flag if we’re so much a part of the general LGBT rainbow. I say, why should we? We’re bi, we’re proud, and we deserve our own flag - if only to show you that we’re queer, we’re here, and it’s not just for the beer.

Bi events at Pride London

Biscuit Indoor Breakfast
Saturday 8th July | 9.30 – 11am
Fitzrovia Centre, 2 Foley St, Fitzrovia, W1W 6DL
A bisexual community breakfast to fortify everyone before we set off for the march! Hot drinks and juice provided. Bring your own food. Free admission.

Bi+ Pride Picnic
Sunday 9th July | 2.30-5pm
Kingston Quaker Centre, Fairfield East, Kingston Upon Thames, KT1 2PT
Wind down after the previous day’s revelries with a picnic in the hall and gardens of the Kingston Quaker Centre. Bring your own food. Free admission. Please sign up to the Facebook event so the organisers can gauge numbers: