Something surprisingly common is that women don’t let the orgasm take place - the contracting, tensing and the spasms can feel a bit too much, and the woman will stop what she’s doing at the point of climax. My biggest bit of advice for you is to let the orgasm happen, ‘power through it’! Some of us need to power through this contracting and spasming to get out the other side, which may feel unnatural if you’re not used to it. Does this sound recognisable to you? That you are feeling something so incredibly intense that you don’t quite know what to do with it.
So this is article 7 and we I still haven’t spoken much about the actual ‘O’ in all of this. As you’ve read in the last article – I am a strong believer in orgasm not being the ‘be all and end all’ when it comes to sex. It actually may be a bit easier for it to be ok when it doesn’t happen when you are with somebody else. That was a weird sentence. Re-word – when you are having sex with somebody and neither of you orgasm, it’s probably more acceptable than when you don’t orgasm on your own.
I write short articles because they are easy to digest but I can understand that the end of my last article may have left you hanging a bit! I would be interested to know how you ‘dealt’ with what may have felt like an ‘incomplete wank’, although this was more about exploration.
A lot of you know what masturbation means and a good percentage of you know how to masturbate. This is a back to basics look at it so get ready to re-learn, and for those who haven’t been able to get masturbation ‘right’ then this will give you the good beginnings of a good sesh!
The female body is amazing but it can also be a bit annoying sometimes. For most of us, we can’t always get wet on demand. The vagina, when it’s in the right mood, creates it’s own natural lube when it is aroused. Lubricant helps accomodate vulva massage (external stimulation) and penetration. Without slippery slide-y lube, sex would be painful. There would be friction which would be followed by days of itching and agitation. Ouch!
How have you all got on in the last fortnight with getting aquainted with your vulva? Can you see it when you close your eyes? Have you named it? The second question is optional but the first one is important! Seriously, it isn’t healthy to approach your vulva without knowing it or appreciating it. If you think that your vulva is still ugly, you can’t move on to the next bit of working with it to get you some great orgasms.
there are 8,000 nerve endings in the clitoris and 15,000 nerve endings in the whole vulva and vaginal area. THIS IS AMAZING! To give you context, the penis has 4,000 nerve endings
Hi I’m Rhiannon. I own a sex toy consultancy business called That’s The Spot. I am an epic sex toy geek, but more importantly, I am a sex educator.