Haters Gonna Hate - Why I'll always be grateful for the likes of Jeremy Clarkson & Germaine Greer

Jeremy Clarkson; Germaine Greer and TERFS (Transgender Exclusionary Feminists) are all doing their best to make a bad name for transgender people and trans-equality – and this writer will always be grateful for people like them.

Jeremy Clarkson, has been vilified for his bilious comments in yesterday’s Times regarding transgender children. In his column titled ‘Transgender issues are driving me nuts’, he also criticised the parents of trans-children and trans-prisoners. He referred to the parents of a child of some “friends of friends”, saying “her parents had simply indulged this whim” when she expressed doubts about her sexuality.

“As far as I was concerned, men who want to be women were only really to be found on the internet or in the seedier bits of Bangkok," he wrote. “They were called ladyboy’s, and in my mind they were nothing more than the punchline in a stag night anecdote.”

Adding: “But they must not, and I was going to emphasise this with spittle, be allowed to poison the mind of a child."

The former presenter, who was sacked by the BBC last year, also discussed the plight of trans prisoners in the Isle of Wight.

“Can’t anyone see, I wailed, that this is what’s going on in the Isle of Wight nick?” he asked. “They tell the screws they want to be women, they get a bit of make-up and some breasts to play with and they are then transferred to a women’s prison, where they can spend the rest of their lives being a lesbian. It’s every man’s dream”

Here he is showing his absolute ignorance around gender identity and sexuality and confusing the two. But he’s not alone.

Germaine Greer last year famously said,” Just because you lop off your d**k and then wear a dress doesn't make you a f***ing woman. I've asked my doctor to give me long ears and liver spots and I'm going to wear a brown coat but that won't turn me into a f***ing cocker spaniel.”

TERF’s just tend to attack transgender women on social media whenever a transgender story is in the news. Good stories they tend to attack then saying we’re not women, and they tend to use negative news stories as reasons to vilify our existence and why we will never be female.

I actually love this kind of criticism. Am I mad? Maybe. But one thing I’m not is a hater.

Caitlyn Jenner was criticised for her dancing with a republican senator who was famously biased towards trans-people and equal marriage. However – I understand why she did what she did.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the last 3 ½ years of my transition it’s that you will encounter people who have not seen or met a trans-person in real life. Mostly they are curious and even the ones who are judgemental won’t spill the comments of the people I’ve mentioned already.

I met someone 2 ½ years ago, when she wanted to speak to someone about transitioning, who also would be considered as inspirational. I spoke to her for well over 2 hours and she’s been a great friend ever since.

A gentleman in his 70’s overheard our conversation.

He too has since become a friend of mine, but when we first started talking he admitted to being both transphobic and homophobic. He said having heard our conversation it made him realise that everyone has a story, everyone has a past and he said there and then I changed his views. His most recent message he sent me read, “Debbie I can't imagine the difficulties you must have faced during your life. All, one by one you have conquered. I think you are amazing. All the luck in the world.”

Now this was a man who until then hated having anything to do with transgender or gay people.

So in sharing our stories in the media, by talking about this subject we’re going to help change people’s perceptions. Regardless of what the haters want to achieve.

I also add that in commenting on transgender issues and attacking us, what the haters are doing is not only getting transgender issues into the media and creating discussions around them – they’re also enabling trans-allies to come out and support us, in addition to making trans-people more news worthy.

So hate away haters. Your opinions may resonate with a few, but I guarantee you you’re damaging your own reputations far more than you’re damaging mine.